Hearts to Adopt

adoption thoughts

I am snuggling Anna under a cozy blanket. Sipping gulping my morning cup of coffee. Mickey Mouse Clubhouse is on in the background. Under the blanket I feel the subtle movements of a beautiful child, our son, in my belly. I feel safe. Eternally grateful. But my heart is burdened. My mind wanders to the child that God has placed on our hearts to adopt.

I do not know if this child has been born yet. If it is a boy or girl. If this child is thousands of miles away or in my backyard. I do not know this child’s name. I do not know what this child looks like. Does its skin resemble mine (pale and prone to skin cancer)?

Adoption is something that Jon and I have felt called to, but it has always seemed like the distant future. I’m not sure why but God is wrecking me RIGHT NOW, but it’s like my heart is finally breaking for what breaks his.

I think about how blessed Anna is. Not just with material things like her bed, clothes or food, but the emotional security she has. The healthy attachment she has formed to both me and her daddy. I think about the swaddling, the snuggling, the tender touches our son will receive from birth. And my heart breaks for the children of the world who will not experience this simple affection.

While we do not feel compelled yet to officially start the adoption process on paper, I feel like God is embracing me, whispering to me words of encouragement and preparation. He’s telling me, “Girl, I have work to do in you…but just trust me. You don’t have to know where you are going or how you will get there. All you have to know is that I am by your side, leading you.” I am also being convicted about what I can do right now:

1) Read what scripture has to say about it.

I am amazed at how many times God specifically commands his people to care for the orphans. The following verses just skim the surface:

Religion that God our Father accepts as pure and faultless is this: to look after orphans and widows in their distress and to keep oneself from being polluted by the world.” James 1:27

Learn to do right; seek justice. Defend the oppressed. Take up the cause of the fatherless; plead the case of the widow.”
Isaiah 1:17

Defend the weak and the fatherless; uphold the cause of the poor and the oppressed. Rescue the weak and the needy; deliver them from the hand of the wicked.” Psalms 82:3-4

2) Pray.

I need to be more intentional about praying for the orphans of the world. I also need to be attentive to hear what God may be calling our family to. My sweet friend, Lara, is joining me in 40 days of prayer. Want to join us? We are on day 5, using this guide.

3) Continue to educate myself on the issue. It is amazing how hearing others’ stories has touched me. I do not know these women personally, but man have they put a fire in my belly for adoption:

Rage Against the Minivan

Jen Hatmaker

Under the Sycamore 

4) Sponsor a child through Compassion. I need to stop talking about it and just do it.

Need convincing to do the same? Just watch one of these videos.

5) Support others who are going through the process of adoption.

Maybe this means contributing financially towards an adoptive family’s travel costs. Maybe this means bringing a meal to a family who has just brought their adopted child home. For more ideas, read this awesome post by Jen Hatmaker on “Being the Village“.

Thanks for listening friends.

16 thoughts on “Hearts to Adopt

  1. I was led to this by a mutual friend, Brook Seaford. My wife and I could not have children. We had begun the “foster care” process by attending the first class. Before the second class, we received a call from a friend saying that a baby boy had been born the night before and the parents wanted him to be adopted, but did not want him going to social services; were we interested? Of course!! We rushed over and met with them for 6 hrs. At the end, we asked if they wanted any contact, photos, etc. They said no. How do you say thank you to that gift? They had reasons for this. It’s not as if he wasn’t wanted, they just knew that they were not ready. Four yrs. later, or lives are wonderful. Every morning is like the morning we got him from the discharge at the hospital. But now, now comes the stressful part of telling him the truth someday. How do we do this? How do we cope with the potential slighting that we are not birth parents? Thank you for posting your blog. We would adopt today if we could afford to. Thank you.

    • Thanks so much for visiting Tim. What a story you have to share! I wish I had personal insights to share about telling your son about his adoption.

      Finances are definitely a fear of mine as well. Adoption is SO expensive. As Brook’s wife Kristan always says, “God has plenty of money…” Don’t let the financial part stop you if it is something you and your wife really feel called to. Have you checked out http://www.showhope.org/? They actually give adoption grants to families.

    • Thanks so much for visiting Tahnie. You have a beautiful blog…it’s always fun to meet other mamas who have a heart to adopt.

  2. Thank you for sharing.When God put it on our hearts to adopt, there were SO many signs. Her name was everywhere. It was beautiful. Good luck in your journey. Keep updating.

  3. I too have been feeling this burden lately. Although I am pretty sure it is still in our distant future. I really do feel the Lord breaking my heart for adoption and Africa at the same time.
    How exciting to read someone with the same heart! Its precious! =)
    Much Love!

  4. What an amazing story of faithfulness. I love they you aren’t worried about rushing adoption. I also feel encouraged to pray for orphans

  5. It’s beautiful to know that God has/is preparing your heart for this child. I am open to adoption, although right now we are not in a place to do so. When my doctor told us we were not going to be able to have more biological children, (we have 3,) we started to sponsor children through Compassion. We have 5 children we sponsor and I truly feel like they are a part of my family. I hope to see them in this life or the next but either way, God prepares our hearts and there’s always room to love more. Thanks for sharing this process you’re in.

    • Thanks for visiting Alia! Sponsoring children is such a beautiful way to care for the world’s orphans. I love how personal Compassion makes it by sending you the bios with pictures. Have you received any letters from the kids you support?

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